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'''Ilyagender''' is a [[gender]] [[identity]] and [[umbrella term]] for identities in which one's [[gender]] is tangibly present; however, it is not [[man]], [[woman]], [[neutral]], or [[agender]] in any way, nor is it in-between or a combination or derivation of any of these.

== Common Definitions ==

{{Quote|ilyagender: il y a un genre, qui est tangible, et n’est pas homme ou femme ou neutre ou agenre en aucune façon, pas entre ces identités et pas une combinaison ou dérivation.

ok my french is rusty but it’s apparently how i coin my words. especially since “il y a” gender literally means “there exists (a gender)” like, yes, one which has been a struggle to name imo. (just, ilya is such a pleasing sound ok (and amusingly like backwards alia)). and like:

having a tangible presence of gender, one which is not man, woman, neutral, or agender in any way, nor between or a combination or derivation.
related: aliagender, aporagender, maverique.

this word brought to you by frustration, months if not years of thought, and acupuncture state of consciousness|Tumblr user epochryphal<ref name=a/>}}

{{Quote|Hello! I would not consider them the same, and mmmm okay let me dig into this.

The history, as best I can reconstruct it:

0. Words like [[neutrois]] are being used to mean sometimes “a neutral gender,” sometimes “a lack of gender that feels neutral.”

I. Alia (Latin prefix meaning ”other”) is coined by @zobothehob0 with @askanonbinary. Its [https://archive.md/TZKx7 definition] is “A gender experience which is “other”, or stands apart from existing gender constructs.” It was created to describe a sense of being othered.

II. Alia is then decried as racist/appropriative(/US-centric). It is called a “[https://askanonbinary.tumblr.com/post/88339203385/ive-heard-that-aliagender-is-a-whitewashing-of whitewashing of third gender].”

III. Apora (Greek prefix meaning ''“separate”'') is coined specifically to replace alia. Its [https://archive.md/qGmTX definition] is “a gender separate from [[male]], [[female]], and anything in between while still having a very strong and specific gendered feeling.” It is both a specific gender and an umbrella term.

IV. Maverique (from ''“maverick”'') is coined by @queerascat, and doesn’t attach to gender (''”maveriquegender”'' is not a thing). Its definition is “a gender characterized by autonomy and inner conviction regarding a sense of self that is entirely independent of male/[[masculinity]], female/[[femininity]] or anything which derives from the two while still being neither without gender nor of a neutral gender.”

V. Ilya (French grammatical construction ''“il y a”'' meaning ''“there exists”'') is coined by me. Its definition is “having a tangible presence of gender, one which is not man, woman, neutral, or agender in any way, nor between or a combination or derivation.”

This is how I see it:

[[File:Ilyagender Image (Differences).png]]

The yellow is where I’m not sure if that was ''intended'' to be covered by the definition? So it might be! But I’m not clear, and I wanted a word that was super clear.

For instance, [[demiboy]] is related to male and related to [[neutral]], and I’m not sure if apora as an umbrella term includes that?

I also feel like there are ''multiple'' genders of this type, so I feel there is value in having multiple words, and that each has its own flavor. Like, synonyms still have value and different contexts for use, yeah? The words ''other, separate, autonomous'' all have different feelings to me.

More informally… I really like being able to just say, Oh, my gender? It Sure Exists. Do I know what it’s like? Well, do you know what your gender is like? How would you describe it? Doesn’t it all just come down, “not like this or that or those ones, kind of but not quite like these”?

Anyway.

I haven’t spoken much about it because I’m really nervous about it getting, beyond my control and redefined the way [[Quoigender|quoi]] did? Quoi is still to me very much about, interrogating whether a supposedly universal experience is a useful model. It’s resistance, much like queer sometimes is. And when I coined it I wasn’t nearly as personally attached to it as I am now, and as I am with ilya.

And ilya feels like a very different kind of resistance, not a challenge-to and opt-out-of model in the frustrated ''throws up hands'' way I often use quoi after trying for ages to fit my weird-shaped peg into any hole; instead ilya feels like sort of a chill, not even gonna bother with all those holes, I’m just existing, thanks.

''jazz hands.'' Words.|Tumblr user epochryphal<ref>[https://epochryphal.tumblr.com/post/157076055057/hi-im-one-of-the-mods-at-ask-pride-color Differences Between Ilyagender & Similar Genders]; [https://archive.md/zLXmr Archive]</ref>}}

== Etymology ==
The term's name comes from the French “il y a”, meaning “there exists (a gender)”.<ref name=a/>

== References ==
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== See Also ==

* [[Aporagender]]
* [[Aliagender]]
* [[Maverique]]
[[Category:Gender Identities]]
[[Category:Outhrine Genders]]
[[Category:Outherine]]
[[Category:Nonbinary]]

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imported>CalicoDreamie at 14:16, 22 September 2025